Tarot, romantic chemistry, and the small matter of whether he ever makes a plan.
You’ve pulled the Lovers, noticed his birthday on a receipt, and heard your song twice while shopping. Meanwhile, he has replied “haha yeah” to the message in which you suggested actually seeing each other. Naturally, you’re wondering whether the universe is testing your patience…. then again, maybe another possibility deserves a seat at the table: you’re interested, he’s being vague, and drawing more than one cards from your tarot deck hoping he’ll agree to meet up actually means something… even if you don’t want to realise it.
If you enjoy romance novels and witchcraft, you know the appeal of a meaningful connection and you want it in your life. The recognition. The pull. The delicious possibility that meeting this person means something. You can enjoy all of that while asking a fairly earthly question: what is happening between you when nobody is interpreting the signs?
Chemistry Is Lovely. So Is Making an Effort.
In a novel, the hero’s mysterious silence might conceal a curse, a dangerous oath, or a desperate attempt to protect the heroine. The author eventually lets us behind the curtain. In your life, you don’t have access to his internal monologue, and supplying one yourself can become a surprisingly demanding hobby.
Try separating what you know from what you imagine. On a page, write “What happened” beside “What I think it means.” “He messaged at midnight” belongs in the first column. “He feels safe enough to be vulnerable with me” belongs in the second unless he has actually said or shown that. Your interpretation might be right. Keeping the distinction visible helps you decide how much you want to invest.
Look at the pattern rather than one disappointing evening. Does he initiate sometimes, follow through on plans, ask about you, and respond when you express a need? Effort won’t always look identical; work, disability, caring responsibilities, and different communication styles matter. The useful question is whether you can discuss those differences and find something workable together. You shouldn’t need clairvoyance to arrange coffee.
Ask the Cards About Your Choices
Tarot can offer a meaningful way to reflect on a relationship. But drawing cards repeatedly about what someone secretly feels can leave you with twelve interpretations and exactly the same unanswered question you had when you decided to buy the deck. At some point, even the High Priestess would appreciate a direct conversation.
Try questions that leave you with something you can act on: “What am I hoping this connection will give me?” “What am I overlooking?” “What would respecting my own needs look like this week?” Pull one card, write your first interpretation, and identify an ordinary next step. Perhaps it’s suggesting a specific date, asking where things stand, or spending the evening doing something you enjoy.
Give yourself a stopping point before you start. One reading, then put the deck away. That’s a practical limit, not a universal spiritual rule. You’re making room to consider the answer instead of drawing until you get the one you wanted. We’ve all negotiated with a card. Unfortunately, the deck doesn’t offer a customer satisfaction refund.
Give the Connection Something Real to Respond To
If the situation feels unclear, make a clear invitation: “I’d like to see you. Are you free Saturday afternoon?” If you’re already involved, name what you need: “I enjoy being with you, but I need us both to make plans.” Keep it specific enough that the other person can respond without decoding your feelings from a cryptic Instagram story.
Then notice the response and what follows. Someone unavailable on Saturday might suggest Tuesday. Someone facing a difficult week might explain and agree to reconnect. You’re looking for participation, not flawless performance. If vague promises keep replacing action, you can decide that the arrangement doesn’t suit you without proving he’s a villain.
If all else fails, and we meet in books again, here are my suggestions for the month: For fictional supernatural chemistry, explore Bride by Ali Hazelwood, a romance involving a Vampyre and an Alpha Werewolf. For a witchy love story wrapped in belonging and found family, try The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches by Sangu Mandanna. Different reading moods, plenty of magic.
You can also begin my Untamed Hearts of Rowan Grove series with Witch, Unleashed, through SoniaMRompoti.com, and join my newsletter for more books and witchy conversation. Enjoy the fictional mystery. In your own love life, you’re allowed to ask for an actual answer—and a time and place.
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